Friday, March 14, 2014

An Expression

I don’t know why everyone is so obsessed with this marriage thing. Marriage! Marriage! Marriage!!! I don’t want to marry, at least not now. Why does everyone see me as a marriage material when it’s just the beginning of my career?

There are a lot of things to be done apart from thinking about marriage and when I have just taken a few steps towards leading a life of my own, I don’t want anything to distract me. There are lots to learn, more to experience and much to be done. All of these aren’t easy.
 To be living away from my parents, managing things all by me and learning to be extra cautious are the challenges that I am undertaking right now. I know this perturb my parents which is why everyone wants me to marry and settle down, if at all I cannot live alone.

I understand their concern. Not being able to live alone is a weakness of mine but I cannot let this flaw ruin my life. Marrying early and dedicating my life to some person I may not even know well doesn’t seem logical and I cannot be an innocent fool backed by some stupid emotions. I want to live and live independently.

There’s a stigma attached to women who are unmarried especially in rural villages. Once a woman attains certain age, it becomes the obligation of the parents to get them married. But I do not want to be one of them and of course my parents don’t compel me to do anything against my will.
There are a lot of people around who are still single and that doesn’t mean they don’t find a suitable partner for themselves. It only means that they are ambitious and do not want to rush into being someone who would have to make so many commitments, of leading a married life. But my utterance do not mean to disparage those who are married or the term marriage itself, rather it’s just a small expression.

Of course I have to marry someday, but the difference is just that this ‘someday’ cannot be ‘Today’. I respect relations and in fact I do dream of having a happy married life but for now I am happy and trying my best to become independent, to live independently and manage things independently.


  1. I agree with you. Continue doing things that make you happy! I support you in this matter! :)